Forgiving someone who deeply hurt you is one of the hardest things God asks of us. These Bible verses do not minimize your pain or rush the process — they show you how God’s grace empowers forgiveness, why it matters for your own freedom, and how to begin even when it feels impossible.
Deep wounds do not heal with shallow solutions. If someone has betrayed you, abandoned you, abused your trust, or caused damage that changed the course of your life, being told to “just forgive” can feel like salt in the wound. And honestly, that kind of advice is not helpful.
But the Bible does call us to forgive — not because what happened was okay, not because you should pretend it did not matter, but because unforgiveness keeps you chained to the person who hurt you. Forgiveness is God’s way of setting you free. These verses walk with you through that painful, sacred process.
Understanding Why God Calls Us to Forgive
1. Ephesians 4:31-32
“Get rid of all bitterness, rage and anger, brawling and slander, along with every form of malice. Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you.” — Ephesians 4:31-32 (NIV)
The foundation of Christian forgiveness is not your own goodness — it is God’s. You forgive because you have been forgiven. That does not make it easy. But it shifts the weight. You are not generating forgiveness from your own reserves. You are extending what was first given to you.
2. Colossians 3:13
“Bear with each other and forgive one another if any of you has a grievance against someone. Forgive as the Lord forgave you.” — Colossians 3:13 (NIV)
Paul does not pretend grievances are imaginary. He acknowledges them directly — “if any of you has a grievance.” The hurt is real. The wrong is real. And yet the call remains: forgive as the Lord forgave you. Not because it was deserved, but because it reflects the character of God.
3. Matthew 6:14-15
“For if you forgive other people when they sin against you, your heavenly Father will also forgive you. But if you do not forgive others their sins, your Father will not forgive your sins.” — Matthew 6:14-15 (NIV)
These are Jesus’ own words, spoken directly after the Lord’s Prayer. They are sobering. Forgiveness is not optional in the Christian life — it is essential. Not because God is punitive, but because holding onto unforgiveness creates a wall between you and the God who wants to heal you.
When Forgiveness Feels Impossible
4. Matthew 18:21-22
“Then Peter came to Jesus and asked, ‘Lord, how many times shall I forgive my brother or sister who sins against me? Up to seven times?’ Jesus answered, ‘I tell you, not seven times, but seventy-seven times.’” — Matthew 18:21-22 (NIV)
Peter thought he was being generous. Seven times seemed like a lot. Jesus blew past that number to make a point: forgiveness is not a transaction you complete. It is a posture you adopt. When you are dealing with deep wounds, you may need to forgive the same offense over and over — not because the first time did not count, but because the pain keeps resurfacing. Each time you choose forgiveness again, it is an act of faith.
5. Luke 23:34
“Jesus said, ‘Father, forgive them, for they do not know what they are doing.’” — Luke 23:34 (NIV)
Jesus spoke these words while being crucified. His forgiveness was extended to people who were actively killing Him. If forgiveness ever had a limit, this would have been the moment to invoke it. Instead, Jesus demonstrated that forgiveness is possible in even the most extreme circumstances — not through human willpower, but through the Father’s grace.
6. Mark 11:25
“And when you stand praying, if you hold anything against anyone, forgive them, so that your Father in heaven may forgive you your sins.” — Mark 11:25 (NIV)
Jesus connects forgiveness directly to prayer. Unforgiveness blocks your prayer life. It creates static between you and God. Forgiving the person who hurt you does not benefit them as much as it benefits you — it clears the channel between your heart and God’s.
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The Freedom That Comes from Letting Go
7. Romans 12:17-19
“Do not repay anyone evil for evil. Be careful to do what is right in the eyes of everyone. If it is possible, as far as it depends on you, live at peace with everyone. Do not take revenge, my dear friends, but leave room for God’s wrath, for it is written: ‘It is mine to avenge; I will repay,’ says the Lord.” — Romans 12:17-19 (NIV)
Forgiveness does not mean there are no consequences for the person who hurt you. It means you release your grip on being the one to deliver those consequences. You hand justice to God — the only one capable of perfect justice — and you walk free.
8. Hebrews 12:15
“See to it that no one falls short of the grace of God and that no bitter root grows up to cause trouble and defile many.” — Hebrews 12:15 (NIV)
Bitterness is described here as a root. It starts small and underground, but it grows. Left unchecked, it poisons relationships, warps your perspective, and spreads into areas of your life that seem completely unrelated. Forgiveness is what pulls the root out before it destroys the garden.
9. 2 Corinthians 2:10-11
“Anyone you forgive, I also forgive. And what I have forgiven — if there was anything to forgive — I have forgiven in the sight of Christ for your sake, in order that Satan might not outwit us. For we are not unaware of his schemes.” — 2 Corinthians 2:10-11 (NIV)
Paul reveals something startling here: unforgiveness is one of Satan’s strategies. The enemy wants you to stay stuck in resentment because it keeps you bound, distracted, and separated from the peace God has for you. Forgiveness is an act of spiritual warfare.
God’s Heart for the Wounded
10. Psalm 34:18
“The Lord is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit.” — Psalm 34:18 (NIV)
Before you can forgive, you may need to grieve. And grieving is something God honors. He does not rush you past the pain to get to forgiveness. He sits with you in the brokenness first. Let Him be close before you try to move forward.
11. Psalm 147:3
“He heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds.” — Psalm 147:3 (NIV)
God is the healer. Forgiveness is part of the healing, but it is not the whole thing. God binds up your wounds with tenderness — not by ripping the bandage off too quickly, but by caring for each wound with the attention it needs.
12. Isaiah 61:1
“The Spirit of the Sovereign Lord is on me, because the Lord has anointed me to proclaim good news to the poor. He has sent me to bind up the brokenhearted, to proclaim freedom for the captives and release from darkness for the prisoners.” — Isaiah 61:1 (NIV)
Jesus quoted this verse at the start of His ministry. He came to set captives free — and that includes people held captive by wounds they cannot heal on their own. Forgiveness, empowered by the Spirit, is one of the ways He breaks those chains.
A Final Word
Forgiving someone who hurt you deeply is not a one-time event. It is a journey. Some days you will feel like you have made real progress, and other days the anger or grief will come flooding back. That is normal. That does not mean you have failed.
Each time you choose forgiveness — even through gritted teeth, even through tears — you are choosing freedom. You are choosing to no longer be defined by what was done to you. And you are choosing to trust that God’s justice, God’s comfort, and God’s healing are better than anything your own bitterness could produce.
You do not have to do this alone. God is with you in every step of it.
Continue Your Journey
If this article spoke to your heart, you may also find encouragement in these related posts:
- Bible Verses for the Freedom That Comes from Forgiveness
- How to Forgive Someone Who Isn’t Sorry
- A Prayer for Letting Go of Anger and Unforgiveness
A Prayer for Forgiveness
Lord, I choose to forgive today — not because it’s easy, but because You forgave me first. Heal my heart from bitterness and help me walk in freedom. I trust You with justice and release my right to revenge. In Jesus’ name, Amen.
Frequently Asked Questions
Do I have to forgive someone who isn’t sorry?
Yes, for your own freedom. Forgiveness isn’t about excusing the other person — it’s about releasing yourself from bitterness. You can forgive someone who never apologizes.
Can God forgive any sin?
Yes. 1 John 1:9 says God forgives ALL sins when we confess. No sin is beyond God’s grace — not addiction, not adultery, not anything.
What’s the difference between forgiveness and reconciliation?
Forgiveness is a personal decision to release bitterness — it can be done alone. Reconciliation requires both parties to rebuild trust, and isn’t always possible or safe.
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